![]() "By using the dynamics of former, failed relationships to learn more about yourself - your own part in unhealthy patterns - you will learn a great deal about yourself." For those who are in relationships, Manly says to explore the role vulnerability and interdependency play in your partnership. "If you find that your relationships have had a certain unhealthy theme (e.g., codependency, emotional abuse, etc.), take the time to engage in psychotherapy or bibliotherapy to determine why you are drawn into such patterns," says Manly. Evaluate the types of people you're drawn to."Different from motivational or to-do lists, this journaling is all about learning more about who you are without judgment." "You can learn so much about yourself - your strengths and weaknesses - by devoting quiet time each morning or evening to write a few, unfiltered paragraphs in a private journal," says Manly. "Whether it’s eating out solo, going to a movie alone, reading books or volunteering on your own, your self-esteem grows when you consciously learn to love your own company." "Although it’s normal and healthy to want to be with others, it’s important to also nurture feeling at ease without others - and loving your time alone," says Manly. ![]() Why has reclaiming these terms become a trend now? "There’s a big shift in renaming the terms of relationships because there’s also a huge shift towards individuality in younger generations who are no longer wanting to be defined by the standards of traditional generations," explains Travis McNulty, a therapist practicing in Florida. In 2014, Gwyneth Paltrow used the term "conscious uncoupling" to describe her divorce from Coldplay singer Chris Martin. Watson isn't the first celebrity to shift what's normally viewed as a negative relationship status into a positive. Why re-framing relationship status is trending now "To be truly self-partnered, one must often invest a great deal of time and energy on personal development," says Manly. It's that they're taking the time to know themselves first. A self-partnered person would feel whole and fulfilled within the self and does not feel compelled to seek fulfillment through having another person as a partner." That doesn't necessarily mean a self-partnered person doesn't date or never hopes to get married someday. Manly describes the relationship status this way: "self-partnering focuses on the ideal of being happy and complete as a solo individual. What does that mean, exactly? Carla Marie Manly, a clinical psychologist based in California sees merit the idea. I call it being self-partnered," she said. "It took me a long time, but I'm very happy. ![]() In a recent interview with British Vogue, actress Emma Watson said one thing she's made peace with as she nears her 30th birthday is her current relationship status. ![]() ![]() Approaching a milestone birthday inevitably forces us to evaluate what we've achieved and where we feel we've fallen short - both personally and professionally. ![]()
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